Language used to define people and groups can be used to express bias and prejudice or be used as a tool for empowerment. Most people prefer to use the most respectful terms, but even the most well intentioned can unconsciously belittle other persons or groups. This paper explores common language uses gives general rules, cites misused terms and terms that simply don't work. The paper has been used nationwide for diversity and inclusiveness training, and is being made available in this format to reach people wanting guidance in the Language of Diversity.